Yes, I realize that it’s not Wednesday anymore, but I couldn’t pass up the chance to join in on this fun Wedded Bliss link up that Allie’s doing over at her blog, Table For More. I didn’t know about it until today, because I have been horrible at reading blogs lately. I’m super excited to have M answer next weeks questions, but I definitely wanted to toss together my own answers for this weeks questions. Better late than never, right? Besides, I need to perk up the tone around here. I’ve been a Mopey Molly lately!
So, here we go!
If you could give one piece of advice to any married (or soon-to-be married) couple, what would it be? Remember to be considerate of one another. Always. Be respectful, be honest, and be open. Communicate daily. Always look for excuses to touch one another…and I don’t just mean sexually. Hug, hold hands, steal kisses. TOUCH. There’s always time for touching.
What is an absolute MUST for any marriage/relationship? Spend time with one another and spend time apart! It’s very important to do things as a couple, but it’s also important to do things on your own/with your friends! A lot of people get into relationships and just become a couple, nothing else. They don’t hang out with their friends and they stop doing anything they enjoyed doing before. They become a WE. While it’s important to be a “we”, it’s also important to be an “I”. Weekly date nights and weekly friend time works for us.
What is the #1 no-no in a marriage? Cheating, obviously. And that’s not just the physical cheating. You can cheat your partner by lying, not being honest, keeping secrets, etc etc. I’ve seen many marriages fall apart because of cheating, and secret-keeping. It’s not healthy. You may feel like “protecting” your loved one from something ugly, but remember the truth always comes out and they will be even more hurt that you hide something from them. (For the record, I’m with Allie on strip clubs. Besides for the obvious fact that you’re watching someone ELSE get naked and dance, why would you waste money when you have it at home for free?).
What is the biggest lesson you have learned from your marriage? That I don’t know everything, and that I can’t know everything. Marriage – just like everything else in life – is a learning experience, a constant learning experience. Forgiveness is key, we all make mistakes. (This isn’t including cheating, by the way, that’s something I could never forgive). Bottom line: you wouldn’t want someone holding all of your mistakes and using them against you, so don’t do that to the one you love. I’ll admit; I’ve done it, and it’s not fair to M.
At the end of the day, M is a fantastic father to our kids and an amazing husband. He may have his faults but so do I. I often forget about that, because I have this affliction where I like to think I’m perfect, or at least pretend I’m perfect. M is always doing little things to show me that he loves me, that he cares. He’ll massage my feet and legs when we’re curled up on the couch watching TV, he’ll make me teas and coffees without me asking. He’ll carry baskets of laundry down the stairs and switch the laundry for me so I don’t have to use the stairs.
Sure, he’s not amazing at multitasking, and I’ve held that against him in the past. I’ve come home from an outing to find the house a disaster, because M hasn’t mastered entertaining/taking care of kids and everything else. It’s only when I sit down here and reflect about it do I realize how much of a douchebag I can be. Sorry M!
So, yeah. Those are my answers! Allie’s got a bunch of fantastic ones too.
I’m pretty stoked for next week, when M will answer questions about our marriage. Next weeks questions are:
Maybe I can con him into doing a vlog with his answers!