Oh buddy. Both N and Aj are in difficult stages and I’m pretty sure I won’t survive this, at least without turn grey, if not bald from ripping my hair out. Figuratively people, not literally.
N is in the “I’m going to do something really naughty, which you’re going to see, then I’m going to deny doing it” stage. He full out lies now, about doing naughty things and about the whole shituation. I’ll ask if he needs to go, he will say no, then he’ll go in his pants. It’s so irritating because I know he knows the sensations and when he has to go, he’s nearly four, but he’s stubborn and doesn’t want to poop in the toilet because ‘he doesn’t like the toilet’. Or the bathroom. Or anything. I feel like I’ve been potty training for 2 years nonstop. The only thing we’ve mastered is peeing in the toilet, and that’s because he doesn’t have to sit. He can stand and take aim.
N also ignores me when I tell him off [for being bad/not listening etc]. It’s a nightmare and testing my patience more than anything because he used to be such a good listener. I think, anyway. M keeps telling me N was just as difficult as Aj but I must have blacked that out because I just remember the good and easy, haha.
As for Aj, well, he can’t talk yet, and he communicates frustration, exhaustion, irritation, etc etc by head-butting. Hard enough to draw blood and leave bruises. He head-butts M & I, and N, and any surface within reach including floors and tables and just everything. I’m so tired of the head-butting. I keep telling him not to, to try and use words (even just ‘mad’, which I know he can say because he has before) but his perfected method of communication is head-butting. It’s like he’s part goat.
So, ya. Those are some parenting struggles I’m facing on the daily and they suck. Tips and suggestions are welcome. N could care less about charts and what not, he bores of them on the first day. I suppose it’s much more fun to be naughty than nice.