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  1. tierney

    I have no doubt that your frustrations with the boys are amplified because of Matt’s unexpected injury- you had no time to mentally prepare for this. What honestly was my best move ever was implementing quiet time. Haylie (8, but 5 when this started) has daily quiet time after our busy activities. This is normally around 2 or 3pm and could last up to two hours. She hangs in her playroom, plays independently, reads, does a craft, watches some tv. I pack her with a snack and she only comes out for a bathroom break. Hayden (3) mostly naps during this time but on the rare instances that he doesn’t fall asleep, he plays independently in his bedroom with whatever toys & books are available. It’s a safe place and the doors shut so I know he’s not getting into trouble. This gives me a much needed break and let’s me clean up and get some laundry done. Why don’t you try implementing something similar for your boys? It may be a rough week getting it started but once they understand there’s no turning back, they should adjust. This would definitely save your sanity in the long run. You could even put a kitchen timer in Nolan’s room and explain to him that until the timer beeps, he’s not allowed out unless its to go to the bathroom. I don’t know, just a suggestion- it’s worked wonders for me!

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    1. That’s a great idea, and honestly it works with Nolan but,…Archer will stand and scream in his room. He won’t play? Just scream. 😐 I don’t know whether to “ignore” that, because so many “studies say” it’s harmful because it makes them feel like their needs aren’t being met and blah blah blah. I have better luck with outside time, at least Archer will play lol.

      Maybe if I put them in Nolan’s room together? Almost like “practicing” for when they share a room?

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      1. tierney

        As long as they won’t kill each other, try them both in one room! I’m a believer of CIO but everyone has their own opinions so I totally understand if its not for you!

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  2. Oh yes, I totally get this! My kids do not want to “just go play.” I want to implement that so badly. I want them to appreciate and play with each other so I can have a freaking break. Your mom was a wise woman for letting you guys work it out while she watched her soaps and took a much needed break!

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    1. Exactly! And it kind of worked today. I gave them freezies lol

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