No Comments


  1. People totally are douchebags sometimes and you shouldn’t have to put up with that! I mean, it’s one of those things that’s all very well and good to say but harder to follow through with – so congratulations to you for actually trying to surround yourself with good people. And I do hope your pain abates for a little while, at least.

    Reply

  2. ((hugs)) it’s hard for people without kids to grasp how tiring it is to be with kids especially small ones day in and day out, when you throw in pain and tiredness it often feels like carrying around a weight that is literally crushing you. To be honest parenting is a very large set of unbalanced scales, every hug, kiss, sweet word and cute thing they do is on one side and every “bad” thing is on the other side. People forget how much chronic pain, depression and just feeling worn out stack the deck on the “bad” side. My husband knows how bad the pain is and there are still times when even he doesn’t get it. I know there are days when I can cope with it and even see the funny side to the 2 year old who likes nothing more than being naked and climbing the furniture. Those are the days when I just call her cheeky and lift her down for the 100th time and redress her. Then there are other days where I totally understand why some animals eat their young and I feel like if I have to clean poop off the carpet, pee off the bathroom floor or wipe one more snotty nose I will seriously lose my mind. The thing that always gets me when people complain about their jobs is usually they knew what they were getting into when they chose that profession, accountants know there will be tax season, teachers know there will be tests and reports, but parents have no advance warning of the kinds of mischief babies/toddlers/children can get themselves in to. Nobody warns you that sometimes the fact that they are adorable and you love them with every part of your heart and soul just isn’t enough to balance out the frustration and exhaustion, just the same as nobody lets you in on just how amazing being a parent can be on the good days. Screw people that judge no-one has the right to make you feel like it’s not ok to have a bad day or just be overwhelmed every so often, Hugs Crystal xx

    Reply

    1. Thank you Crystal! You are so right, of course. Yes, I expected it wasn’t easy – but I didn’t realize all the minuscule frustrations would add up, and how exhausting being exhausted would feel or how long it would last. Xx

      Reply

  3. Oh Honey I can so relate. My daughter is 27 now and she still has me shaking my fists at the sky. She is a redheaded Scorpio who came into this world pissed off because I apparently “kicked her out of the womb”. She told me the other day she would still be there if she had her way. Now she is pregnant with my grandson. She is worried about The Mothers Curse. And as far as the pain I cannot get any compassion. I am just a person looking for drugs is how I am treated. I am expected to do what everyone else does with a smile and no one wants to hear how bad I hurt. I have stopped looking for compassion and have just inside to try to find some kind of inner strength to get me through. But those midnight melt down sobbing parties are a two to three a week occurrence. In fact that is a great blog post idea. I have found a great article on pain that was pretty interesting….not for MHE maybe…I cannot imagine what you much go through and how much you hurt. http://www.chatelaine.com/health/wellness/the-scary-truth-about-our-pain-problem/

    And here is my lovely baby that gave me more joy and pain than anyone I know
    http://pinterest.com/lisaday1266/boards/
    It is her and I that is my profile picture

    Reply

    1. Thank you, and that’s a great article Lisa! Thank you for sharing. Jessie is gorgeous! Can’t wait to see pics of your new grand baby 🙂

      Reply
  4. tierney

    You know I’m right with you on the chronic pain front. In fact, my pains been relatively manageable as of late, that is.. until yesterday. I realize now that your body (pain sufferer or not) gets used to its routine. So much so that yesterday when I started working with a new family, I was literally thrown on my butt with the increase in pain. I can only imagine it’s similar for you with Matt’s unexpected injury. By no means am I pro meds, in fact, I’m pro massage, chiro, acupuncture, physio but I also understand you need to have a fairly extensive insurance package to cover all of that. You know how I feel about heat pads (aching muscles love them!) but have you considered going on non-narcotic meds? I’ve been on so many from lyrica to elavil to celebrex and you may find something similar that works for you. Living in pain is no fun, I’d suggest looking into medicinal options available to you. Also, if you have health insurance look into how much massage and acupuncture it would cover- that could work wonders! Question: is your pain a common side effect with MHE or is this something you just happened to get the short stick with? Feel better!!

    Reply

    1. I’ve actually getting a referral to Mount Sinai’s pain clinic because I do not want to go on narcotics. I want to find something to manage my pain isn’t addictive and doesn’t give me side effects like, oh, addiction!

      I do want to try other means, for sure. I’m going to see what benefits Matt had with work though.

      It has always been a part of my life, pain. Tumours pressing against joints, muscles, tendons and nerves. Tumours on the heel of my foot so that I stand on it whenever I stand, etc etc

      Reply
      1. tierney

        Yay for the pain clinic! I go to one here in Hamilton. Lots of options and I’ve actually never been offered narcotics there!!

        Reply

        1. That’s what I’m hoping for! I never thought about it until I read an article that mentioned Mount Sinai’s pain clinic. I’m kind of exasperated that my family doctor NEVER suggested it after ALL the times I went in for pain, trying to find a non narcotic solution.

          Reply

  5. You hit the nail on the head. If anyone complains about their boss, a new work deadline, staying late at the office or anything of that nature people are okay with that and can understand. Rarely do people jump on them and say ‘Well, that’s the career you picked’ but the moment you say anything about how hard it is to be a mom, you are told to buck up because you decided to have children.

    You are allowed to have bad days at a SAHM.

    Reply

    1. Thanks! I find that happens to me all the time. Motherhood isn’t just being a mom, it’s being a chef and caregiver, a taxi, a mediator, a judge (more or less — time out giver, discipline deciding), a maid, a coach, a cheerleader, a teacher, and a million other things in one.

      Reply

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *