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  1. I’m so proud of you. It’s brave to admit when you haven’t been feeling like “you.” I love the list of goals. You’ve inspired me to create one for myself too. It’s easy to be self-critical. But just know that you are a proactive mom and as my psychiatrist says “do that best you can in that moment..”

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    1. I love that quote. I need it imprinted on my mind or something. I always feel guilty when I can’t do what I should easily do and I feel guilty that Nolan seems to be affected by it. 🙁

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  2. I’ve had plenty of struggles with depression myself, so I can totally relate to what you’re talking about here. Totally. In fact, I blogged about depression myself today.

    I’m glad that you’re doing what you need to do to take care of yourself. There’s often such a stigma attached to taking medication for depression, when there really shouldn’t be. We have no problem taking meds if we have a raging chest infection or other physical problems; why shouldn’t it be the same for mental and emotional problems as well?

    I agree that it’s good to have a plan of action for keeping yourself from sliding into a bad place. Just please be gentle with yourself if you’re not able to accomplish everything on your list. Some days will be better than others, as you know, but it’s important, most of all, to be gentle with yourself on the days (and weeks!) when getting out of bed is really the best thing you did that day. It’s not easy, trust me, I know.

    One day, one moment at a time, okay? It’s a battle that many of us are fighting right along with you. 🙂

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    1. Thank you, and you’re right of course. I am the worst at being gentle with myself (something that I am actively trying to improve on). It does help knowing I’m not alone! Before I started openly talking about it,I felt completely alone.

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      1. That’s one of the big lies that Depression tells us — that we’re all alone in what we’re going through, when that’s absolutely not true. I’m glad that you’re able to talk about it, it absolutely does help.

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  3. Love your list more moms should have one like that. I know I should. Im sure the boys will love there activities. As for archer not talking. Its not your fault, look at tristan he didnt start talking till he was three and now hes just flooding in with new words. Take your time. 🙂

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    1. Mom guilt is a ridiculously frustrating thing..its like you know you shouldn’t feel guilty about it, but you still do and you still beat yourself up over it because we could work more on learning stuff….but learning how to teach someone that doesn’t really talk and has a short attention span is so hard haha. But thank you 🙂

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  4. Good for you! Hey – if Archer ever wants a playdate with another 2yo who could use some time with kids her age, we’re game.

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    1. Oh he could! For sure. Play dates are always fun! 🙂 it’d be awesome to meet you guys too! Maybe we’ll do a Joeys World play date soon?

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  5. Thank you for the reminder.

    I don’t have an excuse for not doing any of these. :S Definitely something to work on.

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    1. I don’t have my hands full nearly as much as you do, cut yourself some slack lady! 😉

      I found a few good websites. Want me to share them? I could send you the links via Facebook.

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      1. Eh–3-4 kids. 🙂 One takes care of himself for the most part so, it’s more like 2-3. 😉

        Sure! 🙂 Thank you.

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  6. Congratulations on climbing out of the pit! That shit is NOT EASY. And I’m glad you know how amazing it is just to hold it together in those dark times. The goals all look doable, one thing at a time. I find this inspiring, and I hope I can do something like this in my own life. Hey this sounds strange, but it was totally sweet and necessary and helpful for my marriage for my wife and I to start scheduling alone time. I look forward to reading more from you. I like this blog.

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    1. Aww thanks Byron! I like your blog too 🙂

      Alone time is definitely important in marriage. Finding small ways to be together, especially if you can’t afford a whole lot, is really necessary.

      Although I’m totally making Matt take me to a comedy night in April for our actual leave the house date haha!

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