Life is a balancing act, and more often than not…I drop the balls.
I look at people who seem to have it all together and I wonder…how do they do it? Are they really that good at it all? They seem like such perfect adults, with nary a worry or a care for the things that I stress about daily. Will I ever achieve that?
Then I wonder if everyone is just really good at pretending. Maybe they don’t have everything together. Maybe they haven’t found a balance, maybe their deceiving smile just distracts me from the truth: that they are imperfect humans too.
Maybe they do have months were they totally and completely forget to pay a bill because they’re so busy stressing about everything else and it just slips their mind. Or maybe they stretched the budget too thin this week, and they’re holding their last five bucks, torn between buying bread or eggs.
Maybe, just maybe they do feel the weight of adulthood pressing down on their shoulders. Maybe the responsibilities get to be too much for them too sometimes, so that they hide in their bathroom with a chocolate bar to ugly cry in peace.
I’ve said it before, social media is very deceiving. You are presented with this online persona. You read all their witty updates on Facebook and see all their perfectly edited photos on Instagram, and you feel like you know them. But you don’t know them, not even when they share a rant or two, because even those people who post a lot on Facebook don’t post every single thing that happens to them in a day, they don’t post every single thought. All the “ugly pieces” that make them appear less than perfect are kept locked up inside.
Most people don’t confess to getting into an argument with their spouse and tossing the big old “D” word around, just to inflict pain and see the reaction. Most people don’t confess to struggling with simply getting out of bed and getting dressed.
Most people guard their secrets, especially the one about not having it all together.
Because nobody has it all together all the time.