My Granny had a lot of wise sayings when I was growing up. One of them comes to mind each time that I feel I am struggling with the “difficult” things life has thrown my way. I’m sure you’ve heard that one before too, it’s a pretty standard saying…a saying that a lot of people say. That saying is:
When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.
The intent is simple: be thankful for what you have. Turn the bad into good. Lemonade is good, right? I think so, especially the pink lemonade. I could live off that all summer long…
Anyways, I was raised to know that as bad as things seem, a positive attitude can turn it all around. I was raised to know that as bad as I may think I have it, someone else out there has it worse.
Now that I’m older, I’ve realized that those lessons are very valuable; a positive attitude is vital. It keeps you going, it gives you motivation and inspiration. And someone out there certainly may have it far worse than you. Knowing that does ground me, and it changes the mindset from victim to victor.
But, I’ve also learned a few more things along the way…
Everybody struggles with their lemons. Sometimes, the basket simply feels too heavy to carry. Sometimes, we get overwhelmed with all those fucking lemons and wonder just how in the hell we’re supposed to turn them all into lemonade? Surely we’ll lose our taste for lemonade, right?
Sometimes, it’s hard. And that’s completely okay. Life isn’t a pissing contest about who has it the hardest and who deals with it the best, or at least…it’s not supposed to be. But it is, for a lot of people…it is. They remind you that so-and-so has it worse, or that this tragedy happened somewhere else in the world that is far worse than what you have to deal with.
Try to take that as them giving you perspective, but know that it doesn’t devalue what you are going through. Your struggles are not less important because someone else has it worse, your battle is not less worthy of attention. We’re all important, everything we go through is important, and life really shouldn’t be a pissing contest about who has it worse.
You shouldn’t wallow in the hardness of life, you shouldn’t surrender to the dark days. Your life has A LOT of good in it, even if it’s hard to see sometimes through your tired eyes. Even when your basket feels way to heavy to carry any further. Set it down for a moment, breathe, and look around you. Appreciate what you have.
Then, pick up that basket again, and press on.
Wiser words have never been said… “What more can I do? Journal it, reflect on it, and take action.”