In life, we have two choices: we can stay where we are and not grow at all. We can become stagnant. OR, we could push past the uncertainties and just do, we can strive to be better. We can acknowledge our flaws and do our best to fix them, not just for those who have the pleasure (or misfortune, depending on who you are) of dealing with us on a day to day basis.
I am constantly in motion, constantly moving towards something unfathomably huge. I can’t really pinpoint exactly what I’m moving towards, but I know that it’s ahead.
I do not want to be stagnant, so I am constantly doing a billion things to make sure that I never ever become stagnant. I don’t want to be where I am now in five years, I want to be miles ahead of that. I want to manage my money effectively, save for retirement, maybe purchase a house. Those are regular goals that mostly every adult has, but I have more goals than that. It’s not just about the material things for me.
I want my name to mean something. I want people to read my words and feel something, inspiration or motivation or something, anything other than the mindless numbness of people coasting through life and avoiding taking chances because they’re afraid of the outcome.
Because that’s what too many of us do: we don’t take chances because we fear the unknown outcome. The same thing is familiar, it is known. Diving into something new with both feet is a scary feeling, and most people don’t enjoy it. We make excuses, we say things like “maybe when the kids are older” or “maybe once I pay down my debts”. Excuses are the thick, comfortable blankets that we hide beneath.
That’s what I used to do. I put things on hold “until later”, when I thought it would somehow “be easier”. I hide beneath my thick, comfortable blanket of excuses because I was afraid and thought it would be too hard. But I’ve learned a hard truth over the last few years, and that truth is that it will never be easy. Ever. Why would you want something that’s easy and effortless anyway? Can you truly be proud of yourself if everything in life was handed to you on a silver platter? Of course not. You’ve got to do it for yourself to truly appreciate it.
“It” can mean many different things for many different people. Maybe it’s buying a house, traveling, or going to school. Maybe it’s following your dreams to become a hairstylist, a makeup artist, a photographer, or whatever else you dream of.
But a lot of people are afraid to chase their dreams. A lot of people hesitate, they don’t want to leap because they’re afraid of the fall.
I know those people. I used to be one of those people – afraid of the fall, afraid of what comes next. But guess what comes next if you don’t leap? Nothing. Somehow, that’s worse. Nothing. Just think about all that nothingness; it’s even more terrifying than the unknown. Yeah, you could fail, but you could also succeed far beyond anything you ever imagined.
Goals are met when dreams walk hand in hand with doing. You can’t be stagnant; you can’t “wait for when it will be easier”, because life has this really ridiculous way of never getting easier. You just learn how to manage the massive piles of crap shoved at you. You get better at balancing the books and your time. You grow.
I’d never be able to call myself a published author if I didn’t publish the novel because of my fears. I’m glad I took that leap. Otherwise, I’d be in the same predicament I was in four years ago; desperately wanting to chase my dreams but afraid of that leap.
So take a leap, and have a little faith.