Yesterday, I wrote about my fears of becoming stagnant, and why it’s important to grow and strive. When you accept your reality as “never improving” or “never changing”, you are willingly lying down and becoming stagnant.
Today, I wanted to write about the other spectrum of that: the stagnant ones. They are the people that remain rooted to their current situation, who refuse to strive towards something bigger and better. They are the people who resent change and growth in others because they are stuck. They are not moving forward, and instead of doing something about it – they focus their attention on those who want to fly and pout about how unfair it is that they are stuck while the others are floating towards bigger things.
The stagnant ones are the people who suffer from a mindset so devoid of meaning, so centered with resentment, that they do not move forward. They stay rooted in the past and they become bitter and jaded any time someone around them succeeds at something, or attempts to follow their dreams. These people are the nay-sayers, the first people to speak up about how impossible it is, or how it’s easier to do it another way (or not at all). Those are the people who are afraid to take chances and afraid to leap.
Those are the people who get left behind.
If that sounds like you, you definitely need to consider changing. Not only for the sanity of those who want to move ahead, but for your own good too…because if you keep trying to clip someone else’s wings because you feel “better” if they’re “by your side”, you will eventually turn into a left behind.
One of the most important lessons we can learn is how to fuel the fire within ourselves and those around us; how to be encouraging, not only to ourselves but our loved ones as well. It’s easy to be a negative nay-sayer, it’s easy to tell someone they can’t do something. It’s easy to tear someone down and smack a label on it claiming that you were “just being realistic“. It’s so much harder to be the encouraging person who reaches out and slaps someone on the back with a grand old “you can do it!”
It basically boils down to this question: Do you want to be the person that lights the fire within others, or do you want to be the person who stomps it out? I know who I want to be; now ask yourself, who do you want to be?
I will always associate myself with the people who encourage others; the people who are supportive and genuine, the people who want to leave a positive mark in the world long after their gone. I have had stagnant people in my life before, and while I always do my best to bring them back to their feet again…I know that it is ultimately up to them to move forward. I can’t drag them forward with me, as much as I want to. It needs to be something they do on their own. If they don’t want to move forward, they get left behind – as much as it pains me to admit.
So, don’t be a left behind. Be a goal chaser, an encouraging, uplifting soul that generally cares about the people around them. Help yourself but don’t forget to help others when you can, and don’t let someone else keep you stuck. Break free and fly; because we are all capable of incredible things.