My body is not what society would deem “beautiful.” My body is marred my surgical scars and bone growths. My limbs are shaped differently and I walk with a limp. I do not resemble the models in magazines or the celebrities on television…and you know what? I’ve come to accept that. I have come to realize that my body is beautiful, that society is the one with the wrong description of what beauty is. Beauty is not one size. Beauty does not look a certain way, or behave a certain way.
If there is one thing that really grinds my gears (yes, a term I’ll happily adopt from Peter Griffin, thank you very much)…it’s body shaming. I can’t stand that shit. I can’t stand it when someone feels the need to put someone else down because “their body is gross”. “They shouldn’t be wearing that,” they’ll chortle. Then I get to spend my time with them, grinding my teeth and trying to resist the urge to smack them upside the head. Hell yes I’ll call them out on it, but a lot of the time my attempts at enlightening them on how rude they are being are met with an eye roll and a “whatever, I’m just saying.”
Why in the hell does it matter what someone is wearing? If they are comfortable, if they are happy – why do you care? Because you feel that your poor, sensitive eyes shouldn’t be exposed to a body that is not defined by society as “acceptable”? I’m sorry, but fuck you.
I know that a lot of the time, the individual who is body shaming someone else is marred with their own imperfections and insecurities. I know that a lot of the time, they are desperately grasping onto this “notion” that “at least they look decent in a bikini”, or whatever. They’re attempting to boost their own confidence by tearing someone down and that is never okay and that is never going to make them feel any better about themselves. The sooner people realize this, the better the world will get. Less hate, more love mother fuckers.
Here’s a suggestion: stop with the cruelty. If the first things that come to your mind when you see someone are rude, hurtful comments – keep them to yourself. You just look like an asshole when you spew that kind of gross hatred, and body shaming never looks good on anyone.